Breaking Up is Actually Easy to Do

I’ve been frustrated with WordPress for a long time but things got even worse. Something as simple as changing a font or color must now be paid for.  While I respect their business model I also respect my right to change hosts.  I’ve gone ahead and migrated all of these posts to  a new blog which, while needing some tweaking, is going to work out well.

I did this over the past few days while trying to sort out my thoughts about the Boston Marathon.  Please visit the new Major Thoughts Blog as this one will no longer be updated.  I’ll get back to sewing and quilting and all good things over there.

Thanks – I hope you come along and continue the ride.

Sunday Afternoon Spooning

Trying out a new WordPress app to see if I can do this on the fly.
I’m using a spoon to pin baste a table square, am going to do some stippling and thought I’d give this kind of basting a whirl. I can’t see doing it for a full sized quilt – it takes just as long and frankly I don’t see the attraction. I’ll have to watch them closely as I stipple around, removing them as I go, right? I still see broken needles in my future!

Dueling Saints

Today is the Feast of St. Joseph so my husband Joe  is celebrating his feast day. Since he had Sicilian parents and their heritage included a tremendous devotion to St. Joseph,  the observance involved emptying the furniture out of a main room,  constructing a huge altar with 3 tiers, draping it with the colors for that year (kind of like a prom theme) and then loading it up with all kinds of lamps, candles, flowers, statuary, etc. Once the novena began the house would fill up nightly with Italian ladies who would sit in the rented folding chairs before the altar, pray the rosary and singing feast day songs at the top of their lungs, all in a  pre-WWII Sicilian dialect. At the end of the hour they moved to the kitchen and had coffee and pastries and chatted. It was a thing of beauty.

Small but Sincere!

The feast itself was a consummate tribute to Sicilian culture and cuisine.  Maria’s version of Pasta di San Giuseppe was a marvel of cauliflower, fava  beans, chick peas, and other ingredients that made a chunky, creamy white sauce served over  homemade pasta.  It was not for the faint of heart – you either loved it or hated it. (I loved it.) The rest of the dishes were largely seafood based (it being Lent and living in a fishing community) and side dishes included battered artichoke hearts and stuffed, sun-dried tomatoes – long before those became “popular” here in the U.S.  It was no wonder my Irish heritage was largely ignored as St. Patrick’s Day got lost in the shuffle.  As the years passed, and Maria did likewise, the festivities moved to other houses.  St. Patrick’s got back on the map, but not in ways I ever anticipated.

I love my Irish heritage and I’m a bit of a purist.  My grandma, Margaret Carroll McGill,  was born and raised in County Kerry and she told me I never had to wear green on St. Patrick’s day because I had true Irish blood. (Somehow I got it in my head that my blood turned green on St. Patrick’s Day and I always wanted to prick my finger to see it bleed – and see if it was green.)  My mother never made corned beef and cabbage because 1) she probably didn’t like it and 2) it really isn’t an Irish dish.  Irish bacon and colcannon are more proper, and I”m not a big fan of any variation of colcannon I’ve ever made.   My observance of St. Patrick’s Day centers around using my Belleek china or having a pint of Guinness (no proper Irishman would be caught dead drinking green beer).  My husband? The Sicilian prince?  Loves corned beef and cabbage. When I say “loves” corned beef & cabbage, I mean “would marry it“. He has a serious problem.  This really happened:

Joe:  I went to the store and picked up some groceries.

Me: Good, we were getting low.  What did you get?

Joe: Well, I bought a nice slab of corned beef!

Me: Really?  (Jokingly) Just one?

Joe:  Well, actually I bought two and thought I would freeze one….

Me:  Seriously?  Two?

Joe: Well (pointing to the refrigerator) …. there might be three in there.

Me: THREE?  There MIGHT be three?  Are you serious?

Joe: Well, we never have leftovers to make corned beef hash and I know you like that.

Oh yes, I’m sure he bought it for me.  He does that a lot. He will come home with a ham and say, “Look what I got you!” (Ham = oxygen to him.) In Sicilian culture, food is love. He shows his love for me by bringing home food he loves. Whatever. He cooks it (I refuse to) and enjoys it with as much relish as he does his feast day pasta.  March is his favorite month.

These days our altar is small but very sincere. We used to have a little silver tray to hold the mass cards of people we had lost, but as years passed we graduated to a lovely crystal bowl. After this round, I think we need to find a bigger bowl.  In twenty-five years we have collected a lot of those little cards. It is with great love and many tears we go through and review  them, but we always try to remember how lucky we were – and still are – to have loved so many wonderful souls. We pray for them, for families and friends, and this year for the new Pope Francis on whom the future of the church hangs in precarious balance. He will need all the help he can get.  I have set aside many of the beliefs taught to me in my youth, but I have hope in him. Besides, who better than the spirit of St. Francis of Assisi to guide us going forward?

Ninety for 90

My Aunt Addie is turning 90 in April. To celebrate this milestone, her kids arranged for each of the 90 days preceding her birthday to be marked with a unique gesture of love from one of her kin. I am one of the privileged members of my extended family to be invited to do so – and I say privileged because 1) I adore her and 2) there are waaayyy more than 90 people in my family to choose from. We are a proper and prolific Irish clan.

Aunt Addie has always been on short my list of people who I want to be when I grow up. My earliest memories of her involve big family gatherings in Madison, Nebraska, and how she and my Aunt Helen were in the center of it all, coordinating the feeding, caring and oversight and sleeping arrangements of a ton of hungry cousins.

In addition to raising large families, they were both nurses. I remember how competently and efficiently they managed the day when their mother (my Grandma McGill) had a stroke. I was in my early teens and pretty honked about not being able to play the cool organ Aunt Addie had in her house because they were trying to keep things quiet for Grandma. (Sorry, Grandma.) Once, my younger brother Steve was with her in a restaurant and they ordered coffee. When the waitress poured and Aunt Addie took a sip, the war-horse nurse in her came out when she said, “Oh, I could VOID coffee warmer than this.” I think Steve spit his out when she said that, but it was such typical stuff from her. Aunt Addie kicks ass. A few years ago she went to see my Dad in the hospital. He was whining about wanting to go home. Once approved, she put him in her car and took him back to his assisted living facility, got out her walker and made the long trip to his room with him, got him settled and adjusted his catheter, grabbed her walker and made the long trek back to her car. (She later told one of my siblings that she wished his room was closer to the entrance.)

Aunt Addie was widowed early, but she pushed right on and maintained. She was the first one in the car for a trip to the casino, and still is – she loves to gamble. She makes it to family events, keeps track of who was who and does it all with astonishing humor and good grace. One of the best parts of going home to see my family is a trip to Madison to see her. I could sit at her kitchen table and listen to her for hours. She radiates wisdom, humor and good times.

My most precious memory of her is when Mom was in the hospital /hospice with pancreatic cancer. They cousins brought her out to Lexington so she could see her sister one more time and I was sitting in Mom’s room when Addie arrived. Mom was pretty narc’d up at that point, but when Addie came in she raised her arms and thickly murmured, “Oh AAahhhdiiiee.” Addie sat on the bed and held her little sister and talked to her, touched her face and the love was so unabashed and naked I had to look away. I’ve never witnessed such strength in my life. I weep now as I am writing this, remembering her grace, how she didn’t lose it, she didn’t cry, she just poured out such love and kindness and goodness. I’m sure she cried a river of tears later, but those last moments they had together were spectacularly beautiful. We should all be so lucky.

Back to the matter at hand – what am I going to do for my “Ninety for 90″? I thought about doing several different things, but many have already been done. She’s had cakes, pies, flowers, phone calls. Chicago White Sox memorabilia, gift cards, lunches and dinner out – all kinds of great stuff. Since the economy is sour, one person minted her a trillion-dollar bill . She took it to the Senior Citizens lunch and presented it to pay for her meal. (They didn’t have enough change.) Oh, and did I mention she is hand writing proper thank you notes to each of us for her gifts? She is grace personified. Wish her a happy birthday!

 

The Internet Wins

Part of having officially arrived at “Old Fart” status is coping with my hyper awareness of the lack of research, accuracy and useful information disseminated by the media. The demands of a 24 hour news cycle have made it impossible to give a story it’s due and move on.  It has to be whipped into a frenzy and subject to all kinds of speculation by “experts” who clamor for attention and air time. Most troubling is how hard it has become to watch the news without frequently hearing, “according to unconfirmed reports” and “X Network News reports” when you are on a different network than X News and they don’t have a clue if it is accurate but the teleprompter rolls with it anyway.   I understand how the Internet has conditioned us to expect instant access to events, but without any practiced eye reviewing them for content, factual accuracy or relevance? In doing that it has also made many of the people who bring us that news incredibly lazy.

This morning was a case in point.  For the second time in as many days, my husband (who serves in elected office) was misquoted regarding a city issue.  The really sad part?  I listened to him patiently  explain -  point by point – to the reporter how he was misquoted the day before, yet after all that the reporter went ahead and published the same damn misinformation for the second time.  Joe even attempted to help the kid out by recommending he call someone else connected with the story, to the extent he gave him the name, place of work and street the guy lives on to help him out.  The reporter’s response?  “Oh…. I’ll just Google it.”  In the process of “just Googling it” the reporter came across some clearly outdated interviews and presented that information as current. Additionally, he didn’t bother to “Google up” the one person who could clarify the information and make this article oh, I don’t know, ACCURATE?

Bass Rocks, Gloucester

One of the things I love and admire most about Joe is his thick skin, his security in his own ego and his incredible ability to roll his eyes and shrug off the number of inaccuracies in newspaper ink.  My Irish soul rails up and demands action – he just shrugs it off as young-reporter-inevitable and goes peacefully on with his life. I admire that ability more than I can express. He is eleven years older and a diabetic, but he will surely outlive me because I will expire of repressed rage and angst. He is so “glass half full” that sometimes I want to strangle him. In fairness, he has wisely (and accurately) stated that if we were both of the same ilk, “We would have thrown ourselves off the rocks a long time ago.”  Thank heavens for balance in the universe.

I bet a lot of “reporters” rely on Wikipedia “The Free Encyclopedia that ANYONE Can Edit!” and Google to do 95% of their job for them. Equally lazy college students are picking up material for term papers off the internet and then getting busted for plagiarism because there are software programs specially developed for colleges to combat such rampant abuse. Fast and easy trumps accurate and intelligently researched every time.

Let’s end on a high note. One of the best commercials EVER made is this one by State Farm Insurance:

Yup, the internet wins.

Just Keep Snowing…Just Keep Snowing

We are just starting out on the most recent “snowpocalypse” to be forecast with the typical accompanying hysteria and panic shopping.  This one is different, however, because the Weather Channel saw fit to give it a name – NEMO.  This makes it easier to track on Twitter & other social media – I get that – but NEMO?  Seriously?

I’m sitting here writing this fresh out of the shower and with wet hair. After listening to

Note Use of Local Dialect

sustained winds HOWL for the past hour I thought it would be prudent to scrub down, shampoo and dry my hair while we still had power.  I’m not one for panic shopping (bread, milk and eggs are de rigueur out here) because we keep a pretty well stocked pantry and I’ve never had a craving for French toast during a blizzard.  If it weren’t for the nagging fear of losing power I’d be happy as a lark.  I love a good blizzard as long as I’m safe, warm and have access to charging devices like my iPad.

Not sure how this storm will shake out but all signs point to “very bad” and I worry about people who are not safe or warm. Let’s all worry about them instead of preempting TV shows to announce another inch of snow has fallen and that everything closed is still closed.

Historic Paper Piecing – Design Wall Monday

I’ve got a pretty broad range of fabrics in my stash and what I make reflects that spectrum.  I have an equal opportunity (and era) stash.  However, I do love hand sewing and since I love paper piecing hexagons I thought I’d give it a whirl with some different shapes and historic fabrics.

Oy vey.

I wasn’t prepared for all those ANGLES.  I can stitch hexagons in my sleep but the octagons and coffins (my word) were a new ball game. To make matters worse, I PAID FOR THE SCRAPS so I couldn’t ditch the project.  No, I am not insane – they are the gleanings from late 1800′s – early 1900′s quilts that have been rescued and conserved by loving professionals. In some cases, entire portions of the quilt had to be removed and the surrounding fabric was lovingly harvested and sold for around $8 a bag.  To a good home, you might say.

I bought a bag of the scraps just to touch them, to study up close and personal how those fabrics were made, the stunning colors and intricate designs.  They just breathed life.  I didn’t know what I would do with them until I hit on the idea of paper piecing a little something to go on my end table. (Okay, probably under glass, I spill a lot of coffee.) I felt compelled to gently hand wash them, let them air dry and used the survivors in this bit of piecing. I like the idea of giving those very old fabrics a very new life.  The gold connecting squares and the border fabric are not old, just reproduction fabrics in the same color family.  Even though from now on I will probably stick to hexagons, I really like this little bit of a thing and can’t wait to see it finished.